Routine #1 – Daily Fear Facing

– 5 km max out. Do I dare to try me? Yes, and with that came a new PR 22:10

– A gut at the gym started talking to me. nice gut I seem around a lot of times. Felt I wanted to interact back, but he’s a super serious weightlifter and that intimidates me a bit. so I pushed the realized fear down. Until I couldn’t anymore and initiated a conversation. It’s fascinating how such a small thing can fill me up with such proudness for doing what’s hard. Also had a giving fun conversation – Bonus!

Routine #2 – New thing

Woke up feeling all tingly and happy after yesterdays “date”. Call it whatever – tea time with a very nice girl! Not used to this, but I like it.

Routine #3 – The Daily Fail

May have pushed myself a bit too hard at the end after running and going to a gymnastic session, I decided to do some deadlifts. Eaches some in my back now. Maxed out. Hope it’ll be okay soon enough!

Hey guys,

Can’t help myself. this is like a journal to me. But really need to prioritize. Saturday morning and I’ve been up editing for on an hour.  So much fun. Part 2 of last weeks’ Sunday video when I went out asking for speed dates. Fun fun.

Yesterday went out for an after-work beer mith my friends. Dared myself to try actually have a beer sit down and enjoy it. So afraid of alcohol these days. The beer itself helped to the extent that I wasn’t thinking about being the odd man out, which I otherwise sometimes tend to do when everybody else is drinking and not me.  Anyways this whole thing ticked some identified daily fear boxes and the daily new thing box!

Also faced some squat fears and did a Live stream, and yeah asked a girl out too ( talk more about that in the stream) :

Challenges of the day:

• Dare to max out in the dumbbell press, see how many reps I can push out with the 36 kg’S. Haven’t tried them before.
• Controlled eating behaviour, with at least 30 min pause between eating more
• Talk to at least one stranger

Have fun with your day, Fear facer,

🙂

/Alex

Too much to write. To little time. Maybe a daily post is unnecessary? Especially when I don’t have the time to do it properly?

Anyways, the 7 coming days I have A TON of work to do. An exam due next Friday evening, 3 videos that need to be edited, along with some serious workload at work this period. So I need to get realistic and pause some things.  No blog posting for a week and no Live stream until 16/11. Sunday video will be out though:).

Routine #1 – Daily Fear Facing

A lot of small social pushes. One I especially have in mind, which was identified and written down a couple of days ago finally had to be faced. The empty box next to it kept staring at me, screaming “cross me off, cross me off”. And it really wasn’t a big thing. Have a neck problem due to an old whiplash accident. Making me need a chair with a neck support, which we don’t have at my office. So I needed to have a conversation about them purchasing one for me. At least that was the outcome I was hoping for. But it was a conversation I kept avoiding. Subconsciously I kept telling myself I had more important things to do and that I would deal with it later. But when I really paused and reflected, I realised it kept draining me of energy thinking about it and should just be done. So I did, and now I’ll have a chair with neck support within weeks! Nice.

Now there for sure were more fears that were met today. But that one is plenty to give an example of what a daily little fear facing action could look like. Remember, it’s about creating that habit and keeping the momentum going so that we are ready for the big things when they come. Because they will. come.

…or one more! I also dared to try maxing out my chins. 28 semi-strict ones. New record. Nice Alex. Nice.

Routine #2 – New thing

Try vegetarian lasagna – Nice! Also, I was the last man leaving the office. Meant I had to learn to turn on the alarm system;).

Routine #3 – The Daily Fail

Hm.. Did I? Can’t think of any particular – it’s been a good day! But that also means I didn’t play gutsy enough;)! Or it was just one of those days! Or actually, I did lose my temper for a few seconds there when my little brother was nagging me about the lights. Keeping myself control is something I want to be able to do in all situations!

Tip of the day

Just have to recommend you to watch this incredible video by Simon Sinek on leadership. BUT, it says so much more about how we all work than just telling a story about what great leadership looks like. HIGHLY recommended.

See you tomorrow, Fear Facer,

/Alex

Routine #1 – Daily Fear Facing

Have a lot I’d like to speak of, but too much work to do! But a lot of social fear facing today in different constellations. One particular – asked two persons for hugs on two different occasions. Physical Intimitsey among  people is so powerful. But it’s a bit uncomfortable when there are people that are just starting to get on that level of friendship – hence the fear facing.

The social pushes overall just pay off so much, both long-term and short-term, in so many ways; happiness, opportunities, social confidence, self-esteem ( when you stand up for yourself and express who you really are), and so much more! As I wrote yesterday, need to make sure that I do what I the same time fear the most.

Routine #2 – New thing

I spontaneously threw myself into a spinning session this morning. Haven’t been in one for at least 1,5 year. Man is it a kick being in a dark room sweating like a pig, pushing yourself hard. I get into this meditative subconscious state that is hard to describe. Naked, pure, REAL!  I challenged myself to a real finisher fear at the end of the session to “okay Alex, dare to give it your all now!” For sure made me feel alive.

Routine #3 – The Daily Fail

I’ve failed to plan. I have SO many things going on the coming two weeks, don’t know how to make it all happen. Have to make sure not to put myself into this situation. Good thing it’s a lot of exciting things. Still.

See you tomorrow, Fear Facer,

/Alex

What a great, great, great day!

Yesterday I stayed isolated and barely talked to anyone. It was the result of work focus and fasting. Left me feeling a bit, well not like I had a great day at least. But I got so much work done! Balance Alex, balance.

Today, I decided to do the opposite. At least social wise (broke my fast at lunch and it didn’t impact me as much). Picked a desk more centrally located (we have an open workspace where you can sit wherever you want). This is a fear for me. I Like having my own private space. Like it a bit too much. But when the opportunities are there, it’s harder to avoid them. Adapt your surrounding to support what it is that you seek. Whether it’s training, food or social life.

Pushed myself time over time to interact and socialize. And yes, as I’ve already spoiled it – had a GREAT DAY. … AND I got a lot of work done. I really need to look out for how I’m self-sabotaging my life.

What are you doing that isn’t benefiting you?

Was in such a good mod on my walk home that I impulsively stopped a very beautiful girl and told her just that

“excuse me, I just have to tell you that you are very beautiful”

“Oh, thank you!”

She said a bit surprised. And I quickly replied

” Have a nice day !”

She smiled and I walked away.

Had another fear EXCITING fear facing moment I won’t tell you about, as it’ll spoil my Sunday video;)!

More to it, I pushed myself to have a really serious and tough conversation with a person. For sure the toughest moment of the day, but felt so proud for doing it.

I’m telling you, don’t shade away from these important conversations you really should have. It’s a game changer.

Routine #2 – New thing

 Ops, have to make something happen this evening! What shall I do…

Routine #3 – The fail

Fail of the day: Broke my glass food lunch box! That sucked. Learning, don’t be so clumsy. I had it coming as I was carrying it in a very risky way.

See you tomorrow, Fear Facers,

/alex

Got a ton of work to do, so I’ll just let Fridays fears speak for today’s as well:)

Or, well… I did face some fears today too. It’s been a very special day. did a twenty hour fast. Shouldn’t do that when I need to be social. Had a conversation I needed to have with a person that I really had to build up to. In the end, did it, and felt really good for doing so.

But I have to tell you… Doing a fast like this, and the ending it with a big cup of green tea just before throwing yourself into a  killer workout. Man. It’s like your a hunter out there in the Savana looking to score. Seriously. Your tunnel vision is out of your world. Adrenaline. Goal-focused. But totally stupid and not capable of holding conversations.

That was the fail of the day… The inability of speaking in a good way due to the fast. Learning – need to choose my fasts ( is that the right word?) better. New thing, did my 5-minute meditation in the shower. Nice.

See you tomorrow, Fear facer,

/Alex

Haha… I think it’s not my awesome morning mood that’s playing me now ( I’m always ACING my mornings ). How? Great routines; journaling, self-motivational talk, reflecting on what I want to accomplish with my day, great music and great workouts. A cup of tea.

This morning I had an epic 5 km run on the treadmill. Challenged me on a fear run, no slower then 13,1 km/hr. End time 22,16. Then I joined a gymnastic jump-around-and-dance-some-class for 30 minutes before finishing it off with some core and listening to one of my go-to videos when I feel lost. My man Casey.

AND in the spirit of my awesome mood, on my way back to the apartment, I stopped the first people I met. An old man and his lady that looked a bit upper class.

“Excuse me?”

“yes?” they said simultaneously.

“May I just wish you a great day?”

They looked very surprised for a millisecond before booth shining up with a big smile.

“off course! Thank you! Same to you”

It’s going to be a great day. After all, the video reminded me that I’m blessed to have found my calling. Inspire people to go out there and grab those fears by the horn and just -BOM. And doing so by showing, not telling. But I’ve got a ton left to learn. Hence I need to find a good way of sharing this journey. Finding out how to make this something that actually adds value to the world.

And I need to find a better way of making it a bigger part of my life in a sustainable way. But I’m in it for the long haul, and I’m going to make sure to enjoy the journey. The negative conscious and subconscious self-talk, judging myself “People think so wired of me for doing this. Am I wired? “. Questioning my own special route in life. That has to go. I need to embrace my path. Stand for it. And I know it’s not perfect, far from. But as long as I keep working on getting there, I’m on the right path.

NOW YOU GO OUT THERE AND FACE SOME FEARS TODAY! ME? Heck no, I’m going to be editing the fears I faced yesterday all day long. And I’m going to have so much fun with it:).

Ciao, Fear Facer,

/Alex

update: the Sunday video:

Just decided I wasn’t going to do a blog post today,  need to get away from all the musts for a while. Then I remembered my rule to never make a longterm decision in a state of not being my self. As for now, that means b tiered weak of willpower and a bit lost. So I’ll do this short post.

Routine #1 – Daily Fear Facing 

You’ll just have to see tomorrow’s video. But it for sure entailed a whole lot of fears!

Routine #2 – New thing

I tried speed dating…

Routine #3 – The fail

I’m sitting here drinking a beer. It’s a fail because it’s a punishment for my sort of kind of failed challenge today ( not gonna spoil it!). I’m not that found of neither beer or alcohol.  You’ll just have to watch tomorrows video. Learning… I’m keeping that one for myself, but I guess do what you say you are going to do, or don’t say it!

See you tomorrow, Fear Facer,

/Alex

Routine #1 – Daily Fear Facing 

Routine #2 – New thing

Went groery shopping. put on the Baby driver soundtrack. Danced my way to a full basket of food. In my own bubble. Nice.

Routine #3 – The Daily Fail

Day started great. woke up early and in the right mood. Amazing workout. Nice live stream. At least felt proud for doing it. I was hungry to then get out and do some social challenge to make a nice video out of… I just needed to hand in my paper, since I’m studying movie theory part-time. Figured I’d be done by 15.00. at 21.00 I sent it in.  It took me all day. Minus the quick 15 minute dance stop at the grocery store.  And it trashed me on the way. No time over. What am I doing. Need to take a look at my prioritize. Can’t allow me to feel this way, not this often. Fuck, I just want too much in too little time!

see you tomorrow, Fear facer,

/alex

As I’ve embraced this lifestyle of calling myself a #FearFacer, it makes it so obvious what I must do.  And that helps. There’s no alternative. Are you a Fear facer?

Routine #1 – Daily Fear Facing 

-Different work-related social fears. Check.

-When I walked home I, despite the fact that I was 10% alive and 90 % dead after a loooong workday, found myself craving some awkward interaction. Just something. A little fix.

“Excuse me, would you mind taking a photo with me”

“No, sorry, I’m in a bit of a rush”

“Okay that’s fine” Or… What if I walk with you and we can take the picture as we go?”

“No, sorry… I’m in a hurry”

I wished her a nice day, and she was off quicker than I had time to take a closer picture of her back. Still, it gave me a little fix. Good job Alex, good job.

Routine #2 – New thing

Nooo, forgot about it… I’ll come up with something before going to bed – promise! Or wait, I wore my super nice high heal (!) leather Tiger shoes for the first time in a Year. Felt really special walking around with those. Made me feel a bit important as it made me taller and it clicked nicely for every step I took. It actually bosted my social confidence some! Funny how the small things can make such a difference sometimes.

Routine #3 – The Daily Fail

I was super hungry at 11.00 already. The strenuous leg exercises sure played its part in that. Nobody else wanted to have lunch at that time, so I ate alone. Couldn’t help but feel a bit bad for doing so. Now don’t get me wrong, I love eating alone. But that’s the problem, I do that a bit too often by routine. Which is bad because I should combine the opportunity of socializing with people. And if I never pushed myself to do that, I would have all my meals solo.

BUT, today I made a strategic decision to eat earlier. Which was fine because my body needed the food pronto!  But even though I love eating alone, this time I couldn’t enjoy it because I felt like iI was making a bad move. Overanalyzing brain – anyone can relate?

I have to stand for my decisions and don’t feel bad about them once they’re made. Then the action has already been taken, nothing changing that. Wasting precious time feeling anxiety – HECK NO! I know better than that.  I can socialize the next time, and I have to learn to deal with decision regret in a better way!

See you Tomorrow, Fear facer,

Also, feel free to join my Live Stream on my Youtube Channel tomorrow Morning at 08.30.

https://www.youtube.com/user/alexanderSnilsson/live

/Alex