Building Self-Esteem with Rejection Therapy – Week 3 – Weekly Challenge #53

Hey guys and welcome to yet another personal development challenge – because that’s what this channel is all about. An area that has been more and more focused concerning self-esteem lately, as I’ve realised what a key role it plays in most kind of growth.

So, what are we all about this week? Expose ourselves to potential rejection within an area we want to progress/develop in; goals, believes, wants  – Rejection Therapy with a Self-esteem building focus.

 And why do we do this? To build self-esteem and get use to not fearing things in life!

 Self-esteem is the foundation for building ourselves up, as that is what we are all about. Starting of this channel being all over the place, as this new year arrived, I sat down an asked myself where we need to begin this journey, and the answer is within. And within starts with building self-esteem. Doing the right thing, following our true self and acting as our ideal self.

“ Your self-esteem rises every time you overcome a challenge… “

But so, if self-esteem is built by doing what you know you should do, that means action is the way to build it. And so, going out there and pushing yourself out of your comfort zone in an area you’d like to develop in – will boost that self-esteem of yours like nothing else. And that’s why we do this rejection therapy challenges – exciting fun and a real pain in the ass.

Because I don’t only base this on some book I’ve read, mainly this is from first-hand experience since it actually is the third week we’re doing this! And the results have been amazing, although it is a never-ending journey, and continues progress only comes if we continuously keep raising the bar. Also an observation I did during this week’s evaluation – when it feels the worse – the greatest reward is almost always just on the other side of that sensation – you just have to find your way through.

See You On The Other Side, Brother – Lost, Desmond

Now just because we talk about rejection, we still go into every situation aiming for a yes! That’s what we want, but the design of the situation in itself, makes the outcome lean towards the odds being against us. Weather we subjectively believe so, or if it’s an actual fact, is less important as long as it is something we fear to do.

So how will we do this? Five questions/request within an area that aligns with our goals and beliefs, one thing each day. But remember, one is better than zero!

 Are there any rules? Yes, you can’t lie, and you must stand by what you are about to do, doing things that aligns with your idea of your ideal self. Self-esteem.

So that’s this week’s challenge! Commit to me in the comments and let me know what kind of requests questions you plan to do. Also, make sure to subscribe if you don’t want to miss any of my attempts throughout the week, trust me, you don’t!

With juicy Love,
/Alexander:)

The Practice of Self-Acceptance – Weekly Challenge#52

The Practice of Self-Acceptance

It’s time for the Second pillar (from the book the Six Pillars of self-esteem by Nathaniel Branden ) – THE PRACTICE OF SELF ACCEPTANCE!

So, we’ve been through learning how to be more conscious, take in our emotions and feelings and being more aware and present throughout our lives – and of course this is something we need to continue doing. But in this next part, it’s about owning up to this reality – accepting what is! A precondition that can lead us to what we are truly after – change!

“Without self-acceptance, self-esteem is impossible. In fact, it is so intimately bound up with self-esteem that one sometimes sees the two ideas confused. Yet they are different in meaning, and each needs to be understood in its own right. Whereas self-esteem is something we experience, self-acceptance is something we do. Stated in the negative, self-acceptance is my refusal to be in an adversarial relationship to myself. The concept has three levels of meaning, and we will consider each of them in turn.” – The Six Pillars., p. 90, Branden.

The full audiobook – it’ll start where this chapter begins:

https:// youtu.be/mfFUVnwCNVY?t=1h11m48s

The Objectives:

#1: Sentence completion exercise

“Sentence Completions to Facilitate Self-Acceptance

What follows is a five-week sentence-completion program designed to facilitate self-acceptance. It is more detailed than the exercises offered for the other pillars because, having taught these ideas for many years, I find that people often have more difficulty fully grasping self-acceptance than any other practice I recommend.

Notice that I include stems dealing with issues I have not explicitly discussed, such as accepting conflicts or accepting excitement. For example, if I can accept my conflicts, I can deal with them and move toward resolving them; and if not, not. If I can accept my excitement, I can live it, I can look for appropriate outlets; if I am afraid of my excitement and try to extinguish it, I may kill the best part of myself. Fairly complex ideas are embedded in these stems. They bear studying and thinking about, and they entail many more implications than I can explore here.

MORNINGS:

Self-acceptance to me means-
If I am more accepting of my body-
When I deny and disown my body-
If I am more accepting of my conflicts-

EVENINGS:

When I deny or disown my conflicts-
If I am more accepting of my feelings-
When I deny and disown my feelings-
If I am more accepting of my thoughts-
When I deny and disown my thoughts-

On the weekends, read over you have written and then write six to ten endings for If any of what I have written is true, it would be helpful if l -. “

– The Six Pillars., p. 101, Branden.

#2 – The mirror exercise

“Stand in front of a full-length mirror and look at your face and body. Notice your feelings as you do so. I am asking you to focus not on your clothes or your makeup but on you. Notice if this is difficult or makes you

uncomfortable. It is good to do this exercise naked. You will probably like some parts of what you set; more than others. If you are like most people, you will find some parts difficult to look at for long because they agitate or displease you. In your eyes there may be a pain you do not want to confront. Perhaps you are too fat or too thin. Perhaps there is some aspect of your body you so dislike that you can hardly bear to keep looking at it. Perhaps you see signs of age and cannot bear to stay connected with the thoughts and emotions these signs evoke. So the impulse is to escape, to flee from awareness, to reject, deny, disown aspects of your self.

Still, as an experiment, I ask you to stay focused on your image in the mirror a few moments longer, and say to yourself, “Whatever my defects or imperfections, I accept myself unreservedly and completely.” Stay focused, breathe deeply, and say this over and over again for a minute or two without rushing the process. Allow yourself to experience fully the meaning of your words. You may find yourself protesting, “But I don’t like certain things about my body, so how can I accept them unreservedly and completely?” But remember: “Accepting”does not necessarily mean “liking.” “Accepting” does not mean we cannot imagine or wish for changes or improvements. It means experiencing, without denial or avoidance, that a fact is a fact. In this case, it means accepting that the face and body in the mirror are your face and body and that they are what they are. If you persist, if you surrender to the reality of what is, if you surrender to awareness (which is what “accepting” ultimately means), you may notice that you have begun to relax a bit and perhaps feel more comfortable with yourself, and more real. Even though you may not like or enjoy everything you see when you
look in the mirror, you are still able to say, “Right now, that’s me. And I don’t deny the fact. I accept it.” That is respect for reality.” – The Six Pillars., p.95, Branden.

GOOD LUCK!

/Alexander 🙂

Rejection Therapy Week 2 – Weekly Challenge #51

 

 

Hey guys!

It’s time for a new weekly challenge, and this time that means throwing ourselves into week two of the rejection therapy!  We do this to build self-esteem and get used to handle the fear of rejection to be able to go after all the things we want in life! Now this is the second week we do this, and if you want to see those videos just press here: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLxw2jMXwRfsml8sliXT2WbdJ1OA4Db65J

But so, what is Rejection Therapy? It’s about desensitizing yourself to rejection – getting so used to that “NO” that it doesn’t scare you anymore. It’s just part of the process of going after what you want. Because we all want stuff, weather it’s in the areas of relationships, things, career or whatever. If we can learn how to implement the mindset of not straying away from the most efficient way of getting to you goal, we have so tremendously much to win. Life becomes more fun, exciting and we learn that we actually can do things we never thought was possible. ALSO, this is building our self-esteem like nothing else. Maybe a stretch, but it’s an incredibly good exercise to strengthen it. Without going in to the details, self-esteem is strengthening when we do the right thing, acting as our ideal self, no matter how hard or painful it might be. To quote Nathaniel Branden, the bible author of The six pillars of Self-esteem;

“Self esteem is the reputation we acquire with ourselves.”

Now just because you go out there and ask the things you’d want, it necessarily doesn’t mean that they’ll come true. But then at least we won’t live with regrets. We tried. Of course, you can always try harder, but that’s another discussion. At least we tried one possible way. And we can be proud, we can feel our self-esteem raise. An amazing feeling. And it gives us more energy to do it again, and again, until that fear of rejection is incomparable small to how it used to be.

We can get rid of:

  • The anxitiy leading up to us making the asking the question
  • Getting more comfortable in the actualy talking moment, daring to drag it out for longer and longer – learning how to negoiate
  • Handling the actually respons/rejection
  • BUILDING self-esteem as we are doing what we have set out to do; doing what we know will benmnefit us and is the right thing top do.

SO how are we going to do this challenge?

Jia Jiang is the guy who inspired this challenge, as he went out and did a 100 days of rejection therapy and vlogged about it. You can find him over at http://rejectiontherapy.com/100-days-of-rejection-therapy/ where you also will find some tips for how to go about this, or just inspiration for some questions/requests;

Jia Jinag’s 5 tips:

#1 – REJECTION TIP: Set a number of how many rejections you can face before you give up on your goal. My number was 100.

#2 – Always prepare a good reason WHY you are asking for something so you can explain your sometimes crazy requests

#3 – Be confident in your requests. If you’re nervous or scared, people will feel your unease and be less likely to say yes.

#4 – If someone says no, ask how you can help make it happen. Rejections are gateways into negotiations. When you ask how, you have the chance to collaborate and turn your no into a yes.

#5 – I focused on rejection attempts that would make me fearless. As you get rejected, create your own attempts to conquer your fears!

Because the objectives of this week is to go out there and put ourselves in firing line for rejection each day this week, Monday through Friday. In order to make this really self-esteem building, it should be questions/requests that align with your wants and beliefs, or something on your bucket list – something that moves your life forward. Now If it’s too hard to come up with those things, pick something which you know will probably will get you rejected. You can find inspiration from Jia Jiang, or my first week. Have in mind that people love to share experiences, talk to people that are passionate about what they’re doing. But remember that the important thing is to just do it, don’t let the small details hinder you.

The only rule is that you CAN’T LIE – as that is devastating for your Self-Esteem.

So that’s it! Hope you’re excited, because I really am! And make sure to stop by during the week as I’ll be posting every day (hopefully).

 

Good luck!

/Alexander

 

P.S. If you want some more inspiration, try reading Jia Jiang’s book ”Rejection Proof”, I’m only on the second chapter but I’m liking it a lot so far!

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem – Pillar one: Living consciously – Weekly Challenge #50

Hey guys!

Time for a new weekly challenge, and this time we are throwing ourselves into self-esteem building practices for real! Or we actually started out last week with some hands on practical challenges: rejection therapy – going out there and asking questions that put us in a great likelihood of getting rejected, but not just any provocative questions. No, we wanted to ask maximize the self-esteem building effect, and hence these questions needed to be coming from a place of genuine curiosity or just aligning with our goals, believes or just something that we know would make us grow and benefit us if we did it.  And what a week – make sure to go back and look at all my days of vlogging if you haven’t already.

But so, this week we are getting ourselves into the theoretical part of self-esteem, because this isn’t a topic we can just move past on a very shallow level. I believe this is one of the most fundamental core pieces if we want to reach our true capacity and live as happy and fulfilled folks. Still, it’s a tuff topic to address, because the things that the theoretical side of it addresses, is just so hard to grasp. Or I should say, it needs to be pinned down to simultaneously practical experience. We can’t swallow a whole book in a week and expect to deeply understand the implication and ramification of it – at least I can’t! This need to take it’s time, and I believe if we do so, the rewards will benefit us on a core level for the rest of our lives.

So, what does this mean for us? Well as guidance through this self-esteem building Journey we are relying on two sides. One theoretical part that will be based on Nathaniel Brandens book: The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem, where we will address one of these pillars for one week at the time.  And then we have the purely practical application of Rejection Therapy to break up with every other week – to make sure we’re actually putting in some real action. But also to enjoy the process of growing our Self-esteem, because Rejection therapy is incredibly fun, yet so daunting.  This means we have six weeks ahead of us – unless we somehow need to course correct, but that’s the initial plan!

I don’t want these videos to be too long – I’ll lose you then. So instead I’m going to briefly address the main points and give a structural overview, and then quite quickly go the practical exercises, which will be this week’s objectives and are directly taken from this book and designed to math every Self-esteem pilllar. I’ll also emphasise you to read some of your own from this book, know if you don’t want to go out and buy it. You could listen to the audiobook, either through audible.com (get a free 30-day trial if you sign up) But I also found it on YouTube ( link ).  Since we’re only doing the first pillar, what will be covered this week is only about 20 minutes, plus 50 if you want a better understanding of the fundamental concept of self-esteem (first chapter) –  which I recommend!

So enough with the appetisers – what the heck is self-esteem? We’ll start on a very shallow level and present the basic concepts and key understandings to get going, and then we might discuss it more throughout the week. As Nathaniel Branden says: “What determines the level of self-esteem is what the individual does.” – that means action will our focus, not just reading and learning about it. Just to be clear, I am by no means an expert in this area, which means this will be a growth journey for me as well.  This also means I’m going to try something new and quote my way through this video with the help of the book – to not mess anything up! We’ll see if it works or not! Anyhow, let’s get started.

 

Nathanidel branden’s definition of Self-Esteem:

 “Self-esteem is the disposition to experience oneself as being competent to cope with the basic challenges of life and of being worthy of happiness. It is confidence in the efficacy of our mind, in our ability to think. By extension, it is confidence in our ability to learn, make appropriate choices and decisions, and respond effectively to change. It is also the experience that success, achievement, fulfillment – happiness – are right and natural for us. The survival-value of such confidence is obvious; so is the danger when it is missing.” (Branden, 1995)

 Or a more condensed spin to it which really stick with you:

“Self esteem is the reputation we acquire with ourselves.”

Having a precise definition – according to Branden – serves the purpose of giving us a clear target to aim to. That’s also why the theoretical part is a necessity to complement the practical side developing a strong self-esteem, it gives us a language and terms to think in when analysing ourselves and the actions we take in the context of building self-esteem. Something that in theory, and from own experience, should rapidly increase our ability to grasp and develop within this area.

Now as I’ve said, I only want to give you a very brief structural overview to keep this condensed. But the next level of this is also of importance to understand:

“Self-esteem has two interrelated components. One is a sense of basic confidence in the face life’s challenges: self-efficacy. The other is a sense of being worthy of happiness: self-respect. Self-efficacy means confidence in the functioning of my mind, in my ability to think,  nderstand, learn, choose, and make decisions; confidence in my ability to understand the  acts of reality that fall within the sphere of my interests and needs; self-trust; self-reliance.

Self-respect means assurance of my value; an affirmative attitude toward my right to live and to be happy; comfort in appropriately asserting my thoughts, wants, and needs; the feeling that joy and fulfilment are my natural birth right.”

(Branden, p.18)

So that’s just the understanding of what Self-esteem is – but why do we need it?

 “…self-esteem is a fundamental human need. Its impact requires neither our understanding  or our consent. It works its way within us with or without our knowledge. We are free to seek to grasp the dynamics of self-esteem or to remain unconscious of them, but in the latter case we remain a mystery to ourselves and endure the consequences.”

(Branden, p. 3)

“A part from disturbance whose roots are biological, I cannot think of a single psychological problem—from anxiety and depression, to underachievement at school or at work, to fear of intimacy, happiness, or success, to alcohol or drug abuse, to spouse battering or child molestation, to co-dependency and sexual disorders, to passivity and chronic aimlessness, to suicide and crimes of violence—that is not traceable, at least in part, to the problem of deficient self-esteem. Of all the judgments we pass in life, none is as important as the one we pass on ourselves.”

 

“(Branden, p. XV)

The value of self-esteem lies not merely in the fact that it allows us to feel better but that it  llows us to live better-to respond to challenges and opportunities more resourcefully and ore appropriately.”

(Branden, p.5)

“The more solid our self-esteem, the better equipped we are to cope with troubles that arise in our personal lives or in our careers; the quicker we are to pick ourselves up after a fall; the more energy we have to begin a new. (An extraordinarily high number of successful entrepreneurs have two or more bankruptcies in their past; failure did not stop them.) The higher our self-esteem, the more ambitious we tend to be, not necessarily in a career or financial sense, but in terms of what we hope to experience in life-emotionally, intellectually, creatively, spiritually. The lower our self-esteem, the less we aspire to. and the less we are likely to achieve. Either path tends to be self-reinforcing and self-perpetuating.” (Branden, p.6)

“We have all heard the observation, “If you do not love yourself, you will be unable to love others.” Less well understood is the other half of the story. If I do not feel lovable, it is very difficult to believe that anyone else loves me. If I do not accept myself, how can I accept your love for me? Your warmth and devotion are confusing: it confounds my selfconcept, since I “know” I am not lovable. Your feeling for me cannot possibly be real, reliable, or’ lasting. If I do not feel lovable, your love for me becomes an effort to fill a sieve, and eventually the effort is likely to exhaust you. (Branden, p.8)

“Once again we observe the basic pattern of self-destruction: If I “know” my fate is to be unhappy, I must not allow reality to confuse me with happiness. It is not I who must adjust to reality, but reality that must adjust to me and to my “knowledge” of the way things are and are meant to be.” (Branden, p.11)

“Self-esteem creates a set of implicit expectations about what is possible and appropriate to us. These expectations tend to generate the actions that turn them into realities. And the realities confirm and strengthen the original beliefs. Self-esteem-high or low-tends to be a generator of self-fulfilling prophecies.” (Branden, p.14)

“And finally, research discloses that high self-esteem is one of the best predictors of personal happiness, as is discussed in D. G. Meyers’ The Pursuit of Happiness. Logically enough, low self-esteem correlates with unhappiness.” (Branden, p.7)

So, how do we build self-esteem?

“What determines the level of self-esteem is what the individual does.”

 “In approaching the roots of self-esteem, why do we put our focus on practices, that is, on (mental or physical) actions? The answer is that every value pertaining to life requires action to be achieved, sustained, or enjoyed. In Ayn Rands definition, life is a process of selfgenerated and self-sustaining action. The organs and systems within our body support our existence by continuous action, We pursue and maintain our values in the world through action. As I discuss in some detail in The Psychology of self-Esteem, it is in the very nature of a value that it is the object of an action. And this includes the value of self-esteem.” (Branden, p. 60)

The Six Pillars of Self-Esteem: Pillar one – The practice of living consciously

There are Six Pillars, I’m not even going to mention them all at this moment in fear of losing you – we’ll get to the other ones eventually.

To live consciously means to seek to be aware of everything that bears on our actions, purposes, values, and goals-to the best of our ability, whatever that ability may ~and to behave in accordance with that which we see and know.” (Branden, p 69)

“Why is consciousness so important? Because for all species that possess it,consciousness is the basic tool of survival-the ability to be aware of the environment in some form, at some level, and to guide action accordingly. I use consciousness here in its primary meaning: the state of being conscious or aware of some aspect of reality. We also may speak of consciousness as a faculty-the attribute of being able to be aware. To the distinctively human form of consciousness, with its capacity for concept formation and abstract thought, we give the name mind. As we have discussed, we are beings for whom consciousness (at the conceptual level) is volitional. This means that the design of our nature contains an extraordinary option-that of seeking awareness or not bothering (or actively avoiding it), seeking truth or not bothering (or actively avoiding it), focusing our mind or not bothering (or choosing to drop to a lower level of consciousness). In other words, we have the option of exercising our powers or of subverting our means of survival and well-being. This capacity for self-management is our glory and, at times, our burden. Our mind is our basic tool of survival. Betray it and self-esteem suffers.

If we do not bring an appropriate level of consciousness to our activities, if we do not live mindfully, the inevitable penalty is a diminished sense of self-efficacy and self-respect. We cannot feel competent and worthy while conducting our lives in a mental fog. Our mind is our basic tool of survival. Betray it and self-esteem suffers. The simplest form of this betrayal is the evasion of discomfiting facts. (Branden, p. 67-68)

 “The Specifics of living Consciously

Living consciously entails:

  • A mind that is active rather than passive.
  • An intelligence that takes joy in its own function.
  • Being “in the moment,” without losing the wider context.
  • Reaching out toward relevant facts rather than withdrawing from them.
  • Being concerned to distinguish among facts, interpretations, and emotions.
  • Noticing and confronting my impulses to avoid or deny painful or threatening realities.
  • Being concerned to know “where I am” relative to my various (personal and professional) goals and projects, and whether I am succeeding or failing.
  • Being concerned to know if my actions are in alignment with my purposes.
  • Searching for feedback from the environment so as to adjust or correct my course when necessary.
  • Persevering in the attempt to understand in spite of difficulties.
  • Being receptive to new knowledge and willing to reexamine old assumptions.
  • Being willing to see and correct mistakes.
  • Seeking always to expand awareness-a commitment to learning therefore, a commitment to growth as a way of life.
  • A concern to understand the world around me.
  • A concern to know not only external reality but also internal reality, the reality of my needs, feelings, aspirations, and motives, so that I am not a stranger or a mystery to myself.
  • A concern to be aware of the values that move and guide me, as well as their roots, so that I am not ruled by values I have irrationally adopted or uncritically accepted from others.”

 

(Branden, p.72)

 

The Objectives:

So, the Self-esteem building exercise we are going to do this week will only take 5-10 minutes per day, and it is directly taken from the book. I believe doing exercises like this has an initial resistance to it (at least to me), so if one isn’t used to this type of self-work. But he guarantees the positive effect of it after evaluating the use of it on his clients. So, have faith in it, and just do it!

EXACT DESCRIPTION FROM THE BOOK FOR SENTENCE COMPLETION:

“Sentence Completions to Facilitate the Art of living Consciously

Sentence-completion work is a deceptively simple yet uniquely powerful tool for raising self-understanding, self-esteem, and personal effectiveness. It rests on the premise that all of us have more knowledge than we normally are aware of-more wisdom than we use, more potentials than typically show up in our behavior. Sentence completion is a tool for accessing and activating these “hidden resources.” Sentence completion can be used in many ways. Here I will describe a way I find particularly effective. The essence of this procedure is to write an incomplete sentence, a sentence stem, and to keep adding different endings-the sole requirement being that each ending be a grammatical completion of the sentence. We want a minimum of six endings.

We should work as rapidly as possible-no pauses to “think,” inventing if we get stuck, without worrying if any particular ending is true, reasonable, or significant. Any ending is fine, just keep going. When doing sentence completion this way, we work with a notebook, typewriter, or computer. (~ acceptable alternative is to do the sentence ompletions into a tape recorder, in which case you keep repeating the stem into a recorder, each time completing it with a difference ending. You play the work back later to reflect on it.) Sentence-completion work can be used for many different purposes. Some of them will be examined in the course of this book. Right now, how might we use the technique to facilitate the process of learning to live more consciously?

First thing in the morning, before proceeding to the day’s business, sit down and write the following stem:

Living consciously to me means –

Then, as rapidly as possible, without pausing for reflection, write as many endings for that sentence as you can in two or three minutes (never fewer than six, but ten is enough). Do not worry if your endings are literally true, make sense, or are “profound.” Write anything, but write something.

Then, go on to the next stem: If I bring 5 percent more awareness to my activities today-

(Why only 5 percent? Let us proceed in small, nonintimidating, “bitesizechews.” Besides, most of the time 5 percent is plenty!)

Then: If I pay more attention to how· I deal with people today-

Then: If I bring 5 percent more awareness to my most important relationships-

Then: If I bring 5 percent more awareness to (fill in a particular problem you are concerned about-for example, your relationship with someone, or a barrier you’ve hit at work, or your feelings of anxiety or depression) –

When you are finished, proceed with your day’s business. At the end of the day, as your last task before dinner, do six to ten endings each for the following stems:

When I reflect on how I would feel if I lived more consciously-

When I reflect what happens when I bring 5 percent more awareness to my activities-

When I reflect on what happens when I bring 5 percent more awareness to my most important relationships-

 When I reflect on what happens when I bring 5 percent more awareness to (whatever you’ve filled in)-

Do this exercise every day, Monday through Friday for the first week. Do not read what you wrote the day before. Naturally there will be many repetitions. But also, new endings will inevitably occur. You are energizing all of your psyche to work for you. Sometime each weekend, reread what you have written for the week, and then write a minimum of six endings for this stem:

If any of what I wrote this week is true, it would be helpful if 1-

 In doing this work, the ideal is to empty your mind of any expectations concerning what will happen or what is “supposed” to happen. Do not impose any demands on the situation. Try to empty your mind of expectations.

Do the exercise, go about your day’s activities, and merely notice any differences in how you feel or how you operate. You will discover that you have set in motion forces that make it virtually impossible foryou to avoid operating more consciously.”

Know that I haven’t tried this myself yet, so we’ll see how it feels like! And as I practice 5-day challenges, I’m gonna do this last part on Friday instead !

———————

Also – the idea is to actively raise our consciousness throughout the day! For me this is going to mean active journaling and checking in on myself every hour (did a challenge on this some weeks back Link: https://youtu.be/kBCu1fOxagI ). Trying to be aware and present and listening to my emotions and what my subconscious are telling me. This is such a powerful thing to do, and cannot be grasped and understand until one start to practice it. It has meant incredibly much for me lately.

https://youtu.be/_jQgvbSdK0I?t=3m4s

As a last objective (Prioritise them in this orderJ ), I’m going to recommend you to read / listen to the book as well. That is the first part of it and the chapter about pillar on – living consciously.  The audio book is a bit condensed compared to the text-book, and the first introductory chapter addressing Self-esteem on a more general level is only about 50 minutes, and then the part on living consciously goes on for only 20 more. So, I strongly recommend you to do that!

Link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mfFUVnwCNVY&t=38s

 

So that’s the challenge! We’ll see how it goes, it’s a deep dive into Self-Esteem, and an important one. We’ll se how the week vlog will play out, it will no be as intense as last week – that’s for sure!

So good luck & let me know how you feel about this one!

See you in the week,

/Alexander

Sources:

Branden, N. (1995) The six pillars of self-esteem. New York, NY: Random House Publishing Group.

The full audio book:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mfFUVnwCNVY&t=38s

YouTuber reflection:

Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden – Insights & Perspectives (Part 1)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=evwYVodTRCU

Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem by Nathaniel Branden – Insights & Perspectives (Part 2)

https://youtu.be/_jQgvbSdK0I