Rejection Therapy Week 12

Hey you! It’s a new week and that means It’s time for some Rejection Therapy! This means exposing ourselves to situations, with a specific question, request or Action in mind, that most likely will get us rejected! We do this to desensitize ourselves from the fear of getting turned down- imprinting the association in our brains that a NO will only make us stronger! But also, building self-esteem by designing these challenges so they align with your values believes and GOALS – going after the things you want in life!

We do rejection therapy challenges every other week, and every other week we do personal development work focused on building self-esteem with the help of the book The six pillars of self-esteem.

Check out my  previous 11 weeks of Rejection Therapy:

Week 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sxEVmwWsaHw

Week 2:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mUTocnY8Mxs

Week 3: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=anw0keWIf-8

Week 4: https://youtu.be/GFHK7O5DrxI?list=PLxw2jMXwRfskSFEl6sI9PzjgMUBZogiGG

Week 5: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Od3M1x6UDCs&list=PLxw2jMXwRfsmwkP3SvSSK7cegXB4eutFg

Week 6: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8aGxvi5qw1A&list=PLxw2jMXwRfskKqy6INIjOFJDJI8_jPAE1

Week 7: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-T1I6j_04xs&list=PLxw2jMXwRfsluXabU_1_o4ucowiz118gG

Week 8: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XM1GPDsP-18&list=PLxw2jMXwRfsl7LL_1QfrV_G0AU35o5YWS

Week 9: https://youtu.be/m-gx1cmBGH8?list=PLxw2jMXwRfsnYfBFiRZid3g3KhSGDvOaS

Week 10: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SrKk416Sh4I&list=PLxw2jMXwRfslj5Eq20SWAcd6GPLU-sfRH

Week 11: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KrSOXiOYKr0&list=PLxw2jMXwRfsn9NHLgWJWCdV1l89LqACFR

 

Tips for how to push yourself when you’re about to approach:

THE 5 SECOND RULE book:

END LAZINESS – Powerful Motivational –

https://youtu.be/lG_rrVwSqEs?t=2m47s

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My objectives of the week is to ASK these question to five different girl :

#2:  Asking for a phone number – “Can I get you’re phone number?”

#1:  Asking for an instant date – “Do you want to go have a have an icecream/cup of coffe right now?”

#3: Asking for a Hug – “Can I hug you?”

#4: Asking for a date – “would you like to do go on a date some day / do something fun?”

#5: Asking for feedback after getting rejected – “Can I ask for some feedback, why did you reject me?”

– Read for at least an hour a day – ( or 30 pages )

– Listen to 30 minutes of an audiobook at least

– Try to implelement a speed reading teqnique

Remeber The only way to fail is to NOT ASK THE QUESTIONS! If I get rejected, I INCREASE my ability to handle rejection, and I increase my Self-esteem If I do what I’ve set out to do, no matter if I get rejected or not!

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YOUR Objectives:

–  5 Rejection Therapy Challenges throughout the week!

The Rules:

1# The request’s/question’s need to align with your goals, values or beliefs! if you go out and do something just to get rejected, but it interferes with your moral or what you believe in, it will decrease your self-esteem.

2# That means you’re not allowed to lie! Own the situation; rather tell the exact reason for why you’re doing what you’re doing, then try to manipulate your way to a yes.

Some tips along the way:

  • Plan what you are going to do and say – or at least have the overall gameplay outlined! Unclarity will be a reason to hesitate when you are about to do what you are going to do – that’s my own experience!
  • Don’t let time play with you psyche, the longer you wait with the approach, the worse it’s going to get. JUST DO IT!
  • Remember, that no matter how shitty you feel before you do it, the reward that awaits you on the other side, will greatly make up for that!

A playlists with some videos on Rejection Therapy and tips related to it:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cO6pe1amNdQ&list=PLxw2jMXwRfsleCrphf4-B8CPM2kpPVU6l

Jia Jiang’s 100 days of Rejection Therapy ( The guy who inspired me to start this)

http://rejectiontherapy.com/100-days-of-rejection-therapy/

Are you up for the challenge? Let me know what kind of rejection challenges you plan to do – and if you’ve already done it – tell me how it went!

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Posting schedule:

SUNDAYS: New Weekly Personal Development Challenge

WEEK DAYS: Depending on the challenge, but at least one Video/Vlog at the Wednesdays

FRIDAY: Evaluation of Week Challenge

 

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/With Love, Alexander

 

 

Rejection Therapy Week 11

Hey you! Early release of this week’s challenge since I’m going of grid out on the sea! But, It’s time for some Rejection Therapy once again! We do rejection therapy challenges every other week, and every other week we do personal development work focused on building self-esteem with the help of the book The six pillars of self-esteem.

This week it is once more time to develop my relationships skills through the help of some serious rejection therapy efforts! However, I’m gonna be spending this week at sea with my family – so proberly won’t meet any girls… I have a backup plan – a reading challenge, at least one hour of reading a day, and trying to practice some speed reading ( https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLxw2jMXwRfsnZ6Fwh0PACo554yZK7cirX )

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Watch my previous 9 weeks of Rejection Therapy:

Week 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sxEVmwWsaHw
Week 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mUTocnY8Mxs
Week 3: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=anw0keWIf-8
Week 4: https://youtu.be/GFHK7O5DrxI?list=PLxw2jMXwRfskSFEl6sI9PzjgMUBZogiGG
Week 5: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Od3M1x6UDCs&list=PLxw2jMXwRfsmwkP3SvSSK7cegXB4eutFg
Week 6: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8aGxvi5qw1A&list=PLxw2jMXwRfskKqy6INIjOFJDJI8_jPAE1
Week 7: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-T1I6j_04xs&list=PLxw2jMXwRfsluXabU_1_o4ucowiz118gG
Week 8: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XM1GPDsP-18&list=PLxw2jMXwRfsl7LL_1QfrV_G0AU35o5YWS
Week 9: https://youtu.be/m-gx1cmBGH8?list=PLxw2jMXwRfsnYfBFiRZid3g3KhSGDvOaS

The link I referred to in the video (SHORT VERSION) :
THE 5 SECOND RULE book:
END LAZINESS – Powerful Motivational –

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My Objectives of the week is to:

#1: Try to get an instant date

– Read for at least an hour a day – ( or 30 pages )
– Listen to 30 minutes of an audiobook at least
– Try to implelement a speed reading teqnique

YOUR Objectives:

– 5 Rejection Therapy Challenges throughout the week!

The Rules:

1# The request’s/question’s need to align with your goals, values or beliefs! if you go out and do something just to get rejected, but it interferes with your moral or what you believe in, it will decrease your self-esteem.

2# That means you’re not allowed to lie! Own the situation; rather tell the exact reason for why you’re doing what you’re doing, then try to manipulate your way to a yes.

Some tips along the way:

· Plan what you are going to do and say – or at least have the overall gameplay outlined! Unclarity will be a reason to hesitate when you are about to do what you are going to do – that’s my own experience!

· Don’t let time play with you psyche, the longer you wait with the approach, the worse it’s going to get. JUST DO IT!

· Remember, that no matter how shitty you feel before you do it, the reward that awaits you on the other side, will greatly make up for that!

A playlists with some videos on Rejection Therapy and tips related to it:

Jia Jiang’s 100 days of Rejection Therapy ( The guy who inspired me to start this)
http://rejectiontherapy.com/100-days-of-rejection-therapy/

Are you up for the challenge? Let me know what kind of rejection challenges you plan to do – and if you’ve already done it – tell me how it went!

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Music:

BACK IN SUMMER by Nicolai Heidlas Music https://soundcloud.com/nicolai-heidlas
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BACK IN SUMMER by Nicolai Heidlas Music https://soundcloud.com/nicolai-heidlas
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Posting schedule:
SUNDAYS: New Weekly Personal Development Challenge
WEEK DAYS: Depending on the challenge, but at least one Video/Vlog at the Wednesdays
FRIDAY: Evaluation of Week Challenge

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/With Love, Alexander

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Watch my latest video: “How to be Assertive – One of the Six Pillars of Self-Esteem – Weekly Challenge #70”

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How to be Assertive – One of the Six Pillars of Self-Esteem – WC#70

https://youtu.be/sphf_HrbHGY

Hey You, and welcome to the Weekly Challenge no. 70! This video has its sole purpose to help you understand how to be more Assertive which will lead to an increased self-esteem! BUT that will only happen trough taking action on your part, and that’s why – as always – this week entails some actions, see description further down.

A quick reminder of how the structure on my channel works – personal development is my thing, and by sharing my journey I want to help you make an as effective journey as well. I want us to grow together because an awakening journey like the one may be absolutely wonderful, but it’s also really shitty at times – In the really short term perspective it sucks to be frank – but long-term, the benefits are too good to neglect. But that also why one needs to have trust in the process, because the results may not come straight away. Because when you’re not allowing yourself to cover up the harsh reality with external sources of entertainment or focus steeling activity – which is a necessity to deal with what needs to be dealt with – you are bond to some uncomfortableness. But that’s also part of the beauty – you learn the connection between the incredible feeling of growth and success and doing the hard stuff. Your brains starts to see the connection more clearly and the priceless habit loop starts to shape.

Healthy self-esteem asks that we leap into the arena that we be willing to get our hands dirty.”

(Branden, The Six Pillars of self-Esteem,1995, p.123)

In practicality, this means I’m all about building self-esteem mainly through the book the six pillars of self-esteem written by Nathaniel Branden. It’s a tremendous hands on guide in how grow that solid self-esteem, and that’s why I’ve given it so much focus here on my channel, going through one pillar at the time. Every other week that is, because I always to rejection therapy challenges where I apply what I learned and go out there and practice some true self-esteem building action. Check out my playlist further down to watch some of those videos.

But so this week is – for the second time – all about being more assertive. It’s the most direct action you can take in order to grow your self-esteem as you’ll see and feel the result of it directly! Let’s hear what Nathaniel Branden himself has to say about it: –

“Self-assertiveness means honoring my wants, needs, and values and seeking appropriate forms of their expression in reality.

Its opposite is that surrender to timidity that consists of consigning myself to a perpetual underground where everything that I am lies hidden or stillborn-to avoid confrontation with someone whose values differ from mine, or to please, placate, or manipulate someone, or simply to “belong.”.

Self-assertion does not mean belligerence or inappropriate aggressiveness; it does not mean pushing to the front of the line or knocking other people over; it does not mean upholding my own rights while being blind or indifferent to everyone else’s. It simply means the willingness to stand up for myself, to be who I am openly, to treat myself with respect in all human encounters. It means the refusal to fake my person to be liked.”.  (Branden, The Six Pillars of self-Esteem,1995, p.118)

The Objectives

#1 – Put on a rubber band around your wrist, and smack yourself with it every time you’re about to go into a social interaction – speak with clarity, try to communicate effectively, stand for your values believes and goals and be the person you truly want to be! Do that Monday through Friday and you’ll experience a tremendous feeling of growth!

#2 sentence completion exercises (I didn’t mention this in the video, but it’s always an option and a recommendation from the book)

“Sentence Completions to Facilitate Self-Assertiveness
Here are sentence stems that can facilitate reaching a deeper understanding
of self-assertiveness, as well as energizing its practice.

WEEK 2

If I brought more awareness to my deepest needs and wants

When I ignore my deepest yearnings-

If I were willing to say yes when I want to say yes and no when I want to say no-

If I were willing to voice my thoughts and opinions more often-

And on the weekend. after rereading the week’s stems, write six to ten endings for If any of what I have been writing is true, it might be helpful if I-.
Of course there are other ways to work with these stems. In my self-esteem groups, for instance, we might work with all the stems on this list in one three-hour session, speaking our endings aloud, then discussing our endings and their action-implications”

Good luck, and if there are any questions, write them in the comments and I’ll get back to you!

The Audiobook read by Nathaniel Branden (It starts on this chapter “The practice of Self-Assertiveness”):

The first video I did when I had my first weekly challenge with this theme: https://youtu.be/aRqdr4h6CUo

A playlist I’ve put together with some videos with the focus on Self-assertiveness: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=61JRS9raMbk&list=PLxw2jMXwRfslNtKHcErv_3hb0hBKRr12X

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Watch my previous 9 weeks of Rejection Therapy:

Week 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sxEVmwWsaHw

Week 2:  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mUTocnY8Mxs

Week 3: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=anw0keWIf-8

Week 4: https://youtu.be/GFHK7O5DrxI?list=PLxw2jMXwRfskSFEl6sI9PzjgMUBZogiGG

Week 5: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Od3M1x6UDCs&list=PLxw2jMXwRfsmwkP3SvSSK7cegXB4eutFg

Week 6: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8aGxvi5qw1A&list=PLxw2jMXwRfskKqy6INIjOFJDJI8_jPAE1

Week 7: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-T1I6j_04xs&list=PLxw2jMXwRfsluXabU_1_o4ucowiz118gG

Week 8: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XM1GPDsP-18&list=PLxw2jMXwRfsl7LL_1QfrV_G0AU35o5YWS

Week 9: https://youtu.be/m-gx1cmBGH8?list=PLxw2jMXwRfsnYfBFiRZid3g3KhSGDvOaS

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The Practice of Self-Responsibility – The Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem

 

Hey You! In this video I’m going to tell you about the third pillar you need to understand and implement in order to grow self-esteem – The Practice of Self-acceptance. It’s based on the book the six Pillars of self-Esteem written by Nathaniel Branden and my personal experience from implementing the theory for the last six months. The shift in how I look at and act in life is just too great to not share with you!

I’ve already done a 12 min video on this topic, there I follow the chapter outline from the book more precisely while I in this video talk more from learnings and experiences from implementing it. I do recommend you to watch that one as well, link: https://youtu.be/-NfJVukXP_Q !

But firstly, let me introduce you to the structure of our personal development plan; every other week I give my full attention to focus in on one of these self-esteem building pillars:

  1. The Practice of Living Consciously
  2. The Practice of Self-Acceptance
  3. The Practice of Self-Responsibility
  4. The Practice of Self-Assertiveness
  5. The Practice of Living Purposefully
  6. The Practice of Personal Integrity

Then every other week I do some kind of rejection therapy challenges which really makes me practice and apply what I’ve learnt to grow my self -esteem. It’s A holy combo! Enough said, let’s get down to business.

What Is the practice of self-Responsibility & why is it important?

It is a simple as it sounds, it means owning your reality, it means not pushing down your real emotions and thoughts circling in the back of your head. Because that’s what we do, we avoid what really needs our attention because that means we can avoid doing something about it.

Why? Well it’s simple, it requires effort and hard work to do so – or at least that’s what we think! Many times the solution is so simple and all the energy and action we put into neglecting our reality is way more energy demanding than actually dealing with what needs to be dealt with. Now of course many of the actions we do need to take are hard and do requires some serious energy input, but that’s what’s life is about if you ask me.

Life would be so boring if we wouldn’t have had to put up a bit of a fight to get what we want! But you need to find ways to enjoy the process – and you make sure strategize and find ways of reaching the wanted outcome through a path that is best adapted to you! Some things you may think will be awful, may in fact after some thinking about it have a solution that actually is quite fun and enjoyable!  But you see, we often even don’t reach this step of seeking appropriate actions because we’re not allowing ourselves to objectively look at the reality.  Because many times, at face value, it just seems so hard that we choose to neglect it. Consciously or subconsciously. Our mind actively does everything in its power to hinder us from feeling pain in the short-term perspective.  We simply push down these thoughts and emotions, or we cover them up with external attention needing actions like work, entertainment, food, training. We often mask it with other things that may require effort as well, but just less – which is better than just binge eating and watching a movie – but it still isn’t what we really need to do in order to progress to where we want to go in life.

If I’m not getting the results I want in area of life there’s two paths to go down; being a victim or stepping up and taking responsibility. For instance girls which has been the focus for me lately, I can actively choose to work on my skills for how to attract and meet the kind of woman I want to find, or I can just blame the external factors for everything that is stopping me.

  • They all have boyfriends – it’s a matter of volume, it’s up to me to skim through and talk to more women then!
  • We don’t seem to have so much in comment – then I need to put myself in contexts where there’s a higher likelihood of meeting someone who shares my interests.
  • I’m not able to have an interesting and engaging conversations – Then I need to develop my social skills, read books, actively practice in all contexts and evaluate and iterating on my body language and talking skills!
  • I don’t seem to be attractive enough – look’s has so much to do with appearance and appeared confidence; clothes & style, appropriate exercise for a fit body, working on my posture, etc.

Now this requires the practice of the two first pillars of how to build self-esteem, a high level of consciousness and acceptance. I can neglect the fact that I’m feeling a sense missing out when I see friends enjoy their company with their girlfriend/boyfriend. But if I decide to take it in and accept that I’m feeling those emotions, If I dare to go down that route, I may conclude that that is something I want as well. Or is just push the emotions down along with some tasty food and a season of Game of Thrones.

So the first step is to go down the route of a high state of consciousness to be able to realise that it’s something that’s not right! Then the second step requires the act of accepting that that this is the reality and that this is the reality and I’m actually feeling and thinking what I’m thinking and feeling – accepting the objective reality and the facts . Which then brings you to the step of taking responsibility – strategizing and finding the appropriate way for how to reach your desired outcome.

Sometimes we’ve realised that there is something wrong – we just steer avoid from dealing with it and sometimes we’ve don’t even practice a high enough level of consciousness to realise that there even is a problem needed to be addressed. And the thing is, once we’ve realised there is something that is “off” in our lives, it never really leaves us, it just drains us on energy!

In all life areas where we’re not currently were we want to be, there’s room for us to look at our reality and ask ourselves what we proactively can do to make that wanted outcome happen in an as efficient way as possible. “what would the ideal version of me do”?  The real beauty of starting to practice this habit actively – not being a victim and taking full responsibility for everything in life – is that you autonomously start to proactively seek ways of improving your life.  You’ll notice how it becomes less and less of an effort to seek the best suited way for you to do something. It gets imprinted in your brain that the route that requires the least amount of energy expenditure is the only way to do it. It’s like a natural biologic reaction of our body, which constantly seeks the most energy efficient state. What’s even better is that it’s SUPER fun! It feels like your tricking the system, life hacking your way through life. All this results in a dramatic personal development growth curve, which actually becomes more and more like an exciting life-hacking game!

So, It’s time to start taking 100% responsibility for what happens in your life, not to say that you can control all external factors that will impact your life – that’s just never going to happen – but, to make sure to REACT in the appropriate way when something that interrupts your world, for the better or worse, is handled in an as efficient matter as possible to make you move towards your ideal self as quickly and efficient as possible!

Having worked with people for so many years with the aim of building self-esteem, I have always been on the lookout for decisive moments in psychotherapy, instances when a “click” seems to occur in the client’s mind and new forward motion begins. One of the most important of such moments is when the client grasps that no one is coming. No one is coming to save me; no one is coming to make life right for me; no one is corning to solve my problems. If I don’t do something, nothing is going to get better.

The dream of a rescuer who will deliver us may offer a kind of comfort, but it leaves us passive and powerless. We may feel If only I suffer long enough, if only I yearn desperately enough, somehow a miracle will happen, but this is the kind of self-deception one pays for with one’s life as it drains away into the abyss of unredeemable possibilities and irretrievable days, months, decades.” (Nathaniel Branden, The six Pillars of Self-Esteem, p. 116)

 

THE OBJECTIVES:

#1 Each day I want you to live your day with this focus, try to be conscious and ware on what is happening in your life – ask yourself how the ideal version of yourself would had handled a specific situation? I strongly recommend to journal and reflect – it’s an incredible power in writing out your thoughts and being able do respond to yourself.

#2 Look at your different life areas and see on a general level if it’s something obvious you’re not dealing with, have one life area focus each day. Do I need to say it;) – journal!

  • Monday: Personal development & spirituality
  • Tuesday: Social & relationships
  • Wednesday: Health & wellbeing
  • Thursday: Work & career
  • Friday: Finances

#3 Sentence Completion Exercise:

In the book, Brendon Outlines some sentence completion exercises to every of the six pillars, that means writing 6-10 endings to each of these sentences, morning and evening, Monday through Friday. It may seem as an effort and quite boring to be frank, which it actually can be if you ask me, but it brings a you in a thinking mood and sets you day up to focus on this topic, and I’ve actually really found them to help me a lot to get a deeper understanding of the pillars.

Morning:

Self-responsibility to me means-

At the thought of being responsible for my own existence-

If I accepted responsibility for my own existence, that would mean When

I avoid responsibility for my own existence-

Evening:

If I accept 5 percent more responsibility for the attainment of my own goals-

When I avoid responsibility for the attainment of my goals-

If I took more responsibility for the success of my relationships-

Sometimes I keep myself passive by-

“The power of the method is that it generates shifts in the consciousness and orientation of the individual without lengthy “discussions” or “analyses.” The solution is largely generated from within. If you keep a journal and over time write six to ten endings for each of these incomplete sentences, not only will you learn a great deal but it will be almost impossible not to grow in the practice of self-responsibility. The best way of working is to do the week’s stems Monday through Friday, then do the weekend stem If any of what I have been writing is true, it might be helpful if 1- and then move on to the next week’s stem on Monday.”

(Nathaniel Branden, The six Pillars of Self-Esteem, p 115-116)

Good luck and commit to me in the comments if you’re up for the challenge!

 

/Alexander

 

 

 

Week 10: GIRLS – Rejection Therapy to Overcome Fear & Boost Self-Eseem

Hey you!

In this week’s Rejection Therapy challenge the theme – for the second week – is relationships – GIRLS! I do rejection therapy challenges every other week, and every other week I do personal development work focused on building self-esteem with the help of the book The six pillars of self-esteem. But so, this week it is once more time to develop my relationships skills through the help of some serious rejection therapy efforts! The plan is simple, I’m supposed to approach as many girls as I can, flirt, create rapport and develop the skills necessary to increase my skills with women. This aligns with my goals in many ways; I want to meet the girl of my dreams one day, so I need to be prepared to show my best self when the opportunity emerges. Also, I have a goal of being able to talk with anyone anywhere – hence I need to develop my social skills.

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Watch my previous 9 weeks of Rejection Therapy:

Week 1: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sxEVmwWsaHw
Week 2: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mUTocnY8Mxs
Week 3: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=anw0keWIf-8
Week 4: https://youtu.be/GFHK7O5DrxI?list=PLxw2jMXwRfskSFEl6sI9PzjgMUBZogiGG
Week 5: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Od3M1x6UDCs&list=PLxw2jMXwRfsmwkP3SvSSK7cegXB4eutFg
Week 6: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8aGxvi5qw1A&list=PLxw2jMXwRfskKqy6INIjOFJDJI8_jPAE1
Week 7: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-T1I6j_04xs&list=PLxw2jMXwRfsluXabU_1_o4ucowiz118gG
Week 8: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XM1GPDsP-18&list=PLxw2jMXwRfsl7LL_1QfrV_G0AU35o5YWS
Week 9: https://youtu.be/m-gx1cmBGH8?list=PLxw2jMXwRfsnYfBFiRZid3g3KhSGDvOaS

The link I referred to in the video (SHORT VERSION) :
THE 5 SECOND RULE book:
END LAZINESS – Powerful Motivational Video for Success & Studying 2017

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My Objectives of the week is to:

#1: Go on a date
#2: Get a kiss

And as a sub mission, I’m going to attend at least one meet up – or going to a social event where the likelihood of meeting a girl with similar interest s of mine is higher! Also I’m giving extra attention to my body language, being assertive and speaking clearly!

YOUR Objectives:

– 5 Rejection Therapy Challenges throughout the week!

The Rules:

1# The request’s/question’s need to align with your goals, values or beliefs! if you go out and do something just to get rejected, but it interferes with your moral or what you believe in, it will decrease your self-esteem.

2# That means you’re not allowed to lie! Own the situation; rather tell the exact reason for why you’re doing what you’re doing, then try to manipulate your way to a yes.

Some tips along the way:

· Plan what you are going to do and say – or at least have the overall gameplay outlined! Unclarity will be a reason to hesitate when you are about to do what you are going to do – that’s my own experience!

· Don’t let time play with you psyche, the longer you wait with the approach, the worse it’s going to get. JUST DO IT!

· Remember, that no matter how shitty you feel before you do it, the reward that awaits you on the other side, will greatly make up for that!

A playlists with some videos on Rejection Therapy and tips related to it:

Jia Jiang’s 100 days of Rejection Therapy ( The guy who inspired me to start this)

100 Days of Rejection

Are you up for the challenge? Let me know what kind of rejection challenges you plan to do – and if you’ve already done it – tell me how it went!

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Music:
The Rover by S Strong https://soundcloud.com/stelios_strong
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SUNDAYS: New Weekly Personal Development Challenge
WEEK DAYS: Depending on the challenge, but at least one Video/Vlog at the Wednesdays
FRIDAY: Evaluation of Week Challenge

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