Face Your Fears – Week Theme: Social Life / Relationships #2


This week’s challenge goes like this: Face your fears within the theme of Social Life / Relationships. This means exposing ourselves to situations, with a specific question, request or action in mind, that will be scary as heck, or having a high likelihood of getting us rejected!

We do this to create this habit of doing what we want to do – but fear the most – and desensitize ourselves from getting turned downed, rejected and controlled by our thoughts and emotions. We want to create a new association to the feeling we get inside of us when a scary idea/thought pops up. A new association that makes us think – from eventually more and more experience – that it will actually be a thrilling, exciting little add to our day, and many times actually move us forward in life!

The Magic of this is that we also increase our self-esteem by doing these challenges, IF we design them so that align with your values beliefs or goals. Simply living our true selves and going after the things we want in life! Boy oh boy – aren’t you excided?!

The rules are simple:

1# The action/request/question need to align with your goals, values or beliefs! if you go out and do something just to get rejected, but it interferes with your moral or what you believe in, it will decrease your self-esteem.

2# That also means you’re not allowed to lie! Own the situation; rather tell the exact reason for why you’re doing what you’re doing, then try to manipulate your way to a yes.

If you can only do one day, then do one day – that’s plenty better than ZERO!

Commit to me down in the comments if you’re up for the challenge, or send me a snapchat at “alenil” to let me know that you’re in. Social commitment make you follow through!


Best of luck guys, see you in the week vlog.




This channel is about living the life YOU want to live. But What does that really mean? And how do we go about doing that? Well, there are some different fundamental pieces we need to have in order to do that, Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs is one model, see figure below (https://www.simplypsychology.org/maslow.html). But what it fails to realise is the true importance of self-esteem and how it makes all the other pieces available. But I’m not going go into the details of that now, but it is something I’ve deeply come to understand after implementing Nathaniel Branden’s book The Six Pillars Of Self-Esteem into my life. So, again, how do we go about LIVING THE LIFE WE WANT here on this channel? Well, for us it means utilising the known tools for how we build our self-esteem and taking the necessary – SCARY- action that stand between us and the life we want. Please don’t mistake me, this is not some never ending quest of one day reaching that vision. It’s about enjoying life every day and realizing that the journey is the life we so long for, we just have to learn how to embrace this journey.




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