Facing 3 Social Fears of Yours

New Week, new GROWTH challenge. Are you a bit introverted? Perhaps having some trouble being social; rather just sit at home in your comfort zone like me? Well, then maybe you should put in an effort this week and make some changes!

I’m going to push myself into three social events, so I can take three steps closer to live how i truly want to live. Collecting New Experiences and having fun with great people! Because that won’t happen if I keep spending all my time at home, in front of the computer, eating, paralyzed by my fears. Weather I chose to admit it or not.

The Frame work We apply:

The idea of it is very simple, the execution not so much. “Facing fear challenges” means that we are to expose ourselves to a social situation with a specific question, request or action in mind that puts us out of our comfort zone! For instance, approaching a girl, doing some flirting & asking for a date. Or perhaps just striking up a random conversation, with a random person or a group of persons!

The great thing with these challenges is that it’s a win-win no matter the outcome, as long as we pull the trigger! We put up a goal, and then we go after it and by doing so building self-esteem. So just this very action, approaching, asking the question makes us have our first Victory! That means we need to do things that align with your values beliefs or goals, which is the first out of the two rules we have. Simply living our true selves and going after the things we want in life is the number one action you can take to build self-esteem. TACKING ACTION.

The result is that we desensitize ourselves from getting turned downed, rejected and controlled by our thoughts and emotions. We want to create a new association to the feeling we get inside of us when a scary idea/thought pops up. A new association that makes us think – from eventually more and more experience – that it will be a thrilling, exciting little add to our day, that moves us forward in life. If we do this over and over again you start to shape a sustainable awesome habit (The Habit Loop).

But don’t get me wrong, the fear doesn’t disappear, at least not for me, but the fear starts to work as a trigger – a cue – for us that makes our dopamine craving brain shine up like a firework on new year’s eve.  The fear becomes that que that we should start doing our routine – pushing through the fear – so we can get to the reward, that sense of proudness for doing what we sat out to do. An explosion of adrenaline and good feeling hormones.

GOOD LUCK; & commit to me in the comments, it’ll help you a lot. Trust me. Social responsibility makes all the difference.

/Alexander


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WEEK DAYS: Depending on the challenge, but at least one Video/Vlog at the Wednesdays

FRIDAY: Evaluation of Week Challenge

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/With Love, Alexander

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