Building Self-Esteem with Rejection Therapy – Learn how to ask anything – Weekly Challenge #55
Hey Guys! It’s time for yet another weekly challenge, and this time we’re all about Rejection therapy again. That means once we are going to do five small challenges where we expose ourselves to a predetermined situation of your choice with a request or question that means we are likely to get rejected! We do this to desensitize ourselves from fear of getting turned down, taking a no! But also, building self-esteem by going after the things we want in life, doing what we truly want! And that’s also why we design these challenges uniquely for ourselves.
It’s the fourth week I’ve been doing this particular thing, and It has truly worked like a charm so far! My social confidence and self-esteem has grown like crazy, and even though it’s really, really, tuff and filled with anxiety prior to doing it – there is always a bigger reward waiting for you on the other side of that mountain. The only way to fail, is to not try.
Now I’ve gone through this challenge three times already, so I’m going to try not be too repetitive and instead shed some personal experience I’ve gained so far, and some practical learnings from that.
But so, Rejection therapy is quite straight forward. Getting use to taking a no by asking questions and making requests. But is it worth all the hustle? Well, if you’ve been following me lately, you know this is the fourth week with rejection therapy, and the results haven’t lagging behind. I truly can feel the growth that has happened, both social confidence and self-esteem has gone through some major level upgrades! But this can’t solely be attributed to this, as we every other week are focusing in on one of the six pillars of self-esteem, based on the book with the same name. So far, we’ve been through the practice of consciousness, self-acceptance and self-responsibility, focusing in on these fundamental pieces, taking in some theory and doing some very simple sentence exercises has helped a ton in my self-esteem building journey.
But even more so, it’s almost like these results are secondary to the beautiful and amazing moments I’ve had the good fortune of experiencing as a result of my interactions. I’ve had some great conversations, experienced joy, laughter and made some deep connections I never thought was possible after just meeting them. Some moments that I’m going to cherish and carry with me for the rest of my life. Because if it’s one thing I’ve come to realize through my personal development journey, it is that it’s the small “top moments” as I like to call them, of the day, that makes it all so special. The daily journey throughout our life filled with beautiful details. But these often come when we experience new things, when we are aware, and seek those moment.
- 5 Rejection Therapy Challenges throughout the week!
1# The request’s/question’s need to align with your goals/beliefs, if you go out and do something just to get rejected, but it interfere with your moral or what you believe in, it will decrease your self-esteem.
2# That means you’re not allowed to lie! Own the situation; rather tell the exact reason for why you’re doing what you’re doing, then try to manipulate your way to a yes.
Some tips along the way:
- Plan out what you are going to do and say; unclarity will be a reason to hesitate when you are about to do what you are going to do – that’s my own experience!
- Don’t let time play with you psyche, the longer you wait with the approach, the worse it’s going to get. JUST DO IT!
- Remember, that no matter how shitty you feel before you do it, the reward that awaits you on the other side, will greatly make up for that!
Jia Jinag’s 5 tips – the guy who inspired me to start doing these challenges:
- #1 – REJECTION TIP: Set a number of how many rejections you can face before you give up on your goal. My number was 100.
- #2 – Always prepare a good reason WHY you are asking for something so you can explain your sometimes crazy requests
- #3 – Be confident in your requests. If you’re nervous or scared, people will feel your unease and be less likely to say yes.
- #4 – If someone says no, ask how you can help make it happen. Rejections are gateways into negotiations. When you ask how, you have the chance to collaborate and turn your no into a yes.
- #5 – I focused on rejection attempts that would make me fearless. As you get rejected, create your own attempts to conquer your fears!
So that’s it, hope you feel hungry for some rejection and are excited to do this! I’m for sure is, again. If you want some inspiration, look through my precious weeks of rejection challenges, you’ll find them here:
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